On the occasion of World Elder’s Day 2022 we at Team Restory.in wanted to share with you, not wishes or unwanted positivity but instead share something we read that left a significant impact on us.
Full credit to Mr Sahil Bloom who shared this on his Twitter ID https://twitter.com/SahilBloom
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“Last year, I had a conversation that changed my life. It caused me to upend everything and move across the country. The lesson from it may change yours:
I was out for a drink with a friend. We’ll call him George. As we settled in, George asked about my life and how I was feeling.
At first, I gave him the standard response that we’ve all grown so accustomed to:
“I’m good. Busy!” He stared blankly through my empty words.
Feeling the pressure of his gaze, I adjusted myself and added that living in California had begun to wear on me, it being so far from my parents on the East Coast.
I had been 3,000 miles away for the last 12 years. And with the path I was on, there was no end in sight.
The moment of vulnerability sparked an interaction that changed my life:
George: “How often do you see your parents?”
Me: “Maybe once a year now.”
George: “And how old are they?”
Me: “Mid-sixties.”
George: “Ok, so you’re going to see them 15 more times before they die.”
Gut punch. I took a deep breath. It wasn’t meant to be rude—it was just…math.
If the average life expectancy is ~80 years, my parents are in their mid-60s, and I see them one time per year, the math—however depressing—says I will see them 15 more times before they are gone.
Our time together is finite, but we often fail to recognize it until it’s too late.
Time is cruel. You’ll love it with all of your being—you may even pray for more of it—but time doesn’t care about you.
Your relationship with time is the ultimate unrequited love.
The morning after this conversation, my wife and I had a very candid conversation about what we wanted in life.
A few days later, we listed our house in California on the market, packed up our things, and shipped off to the East Coast to be closer to our parents.
It’s been over a year since the conversation that changed my life.
I’ll never regret these tiny moments—of doing nothing in particular—that we’ll spend together in the years ahead. I’ll never regret the moments my parents get to spend with my son. I’ll never regret any of it.
It brings one takeaway to life: Our time with our loved ones is so limited and precious.
All of this math—depressing as it seems—should be a call to arms.
Identify the people and activities you care most deeply about. Prioritize them ruthlessly.
It may be difficult—even painful—but it’s a decision you’ll never regret. We spend most of our lives playing a game. Everything we do is in anticipation of the future. When that future comes, we simply reset to the next one.
“I can’t wait until I’m 18 so I can [X].” etc etc
It’s natural, but it’s a dangerous game—one that we will lose, eventually.
Time is our most precious asset and the present is all that’s guaranteed.
Spend it wisely, with those you love, in ways you’ll never regret.
I hope this thread sparks some of you to have conversations with your loved ones about time (and who you want to spend yours with).
By the way, the point of this thread isn’t saying that any decision about where to live is *right* or *wrong*.
We all have to reach our own conclusions.
These are often very challenging decisions with a variety of complex trade-offs.
-Sahil Bloom
Please draw your own conclusions and share your thoughts with us.
On this World Elders Day we felt that this is the most precious message we can share with everyone. Please reshare and forward if you feel someone should read this.
With love and regards
Team Restory
